annb ( member #22386)		posted at 1:15 AM on Thursday, January 7th, 2010	
			 
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				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 4:45 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2010	
		 			
				    				Jen  ( member #26584)		posted at 12:01 AM on Saturday, January 9th, 2010	
				Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah
		
	 	 			
				    				showmehowtolive ( member #27098)		posted at 12:32 AM on Saturday, January 9th, 2010	
			 
	I'm sure you're hearing it over and over, but as a new BS, it is helpful.  I will make certain to do my best to follow this wisdom!! 
 
			 			Me = BS
Her = WW
Married 30 yr
Dday 9/1994; 1/5/10
2 kids; D 26, S 24		
	 	 			
				    				Jen  ( member #26584)		posted at 7:13 PM on Saturday, January 9th, 2010	
				Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah
		
	 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 11:19 PM on Monday, January 11th, 2010	
		 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 12:12 AM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010	
		 			
				    				LostbutHopeful ( new member #27154)		posted at 2:57 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010	
			 
	Thank you so much for reposting this Primer.  It is how I have been trying to approach things so far on my own...it certainly fits how I think and have been trained in my work.  But it's so hard not to move towards some of the things I shouldn't do...that will make it harder for my wife to change how she looks at me (since well before she entered into the affair). 
 
			 			BH - 41
WW - 40
D - 6, S - 4
Married 9 1/2 years.
Together almost 12.
DD#1 - 12/12/09
DD#2 - 01/08/10
Start of NC - 01/15/10
DD#3 - 02/15/10
In MC - Both desire to work on R in the hope of saving our relationship and marriage.  Giving oursel		
	 	 			
				    				2Gullible ( member #26354)		posted at 2:58 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010	
			 
	I think the hardest  thing for me here is the boundaries. I keep setting boundaries, but I have never really made him pay for crossing them. 
 
 
	I am working on me. I will get the courage to stand by my boundaries. One minute at a time is all I can take. 
 
			 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 9:09 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010	
			 
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				    				Illinoisgirl ( member #25686)		posted at 4:36 PM on Friday, January 15th, 2010	
				Married 12 years, together 18
WH - Recovering alcoholic
Me - Recovering wife
Reconciling?
D-Day 9-27-09
3 great kids - 12, 10 & 8
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.  Eleanor Roosevelt		
	 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 11:47 PM on Friday, January 15th, 2010	
		 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 12:41 AM on Sunday, January 17th, 2010	
			 
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				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 9:40 PM on Monday, January 18th, 2010	
		 			
				    				 SerJR (original poster  member #14993)		posted at 2:40 PM on Wednesday, January 20th, 2010	
			 
	Bump for painpaingoaway 
 
 
			 			Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.		
	 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 1:55 AM on Friday, January 22nd, 2010	
			 
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				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 1:37 AM on Saturday, January 23rd, 2010	
			 
	bump for wecanfixthis. 
 
 
			 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 5:07 PM on Sunday, January 24th, 2010	
			 
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				    				Jen  ( member #26584)		posted at 5:38 AM on Monday, January 25th, 2010	
				Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah
		
	 	 			
				    				Gottagetthrough ( member #27325)		posted at 9:44 PM on Monday, January 25th, 2010