bufffalo ( member #21854)		posted at 7:05 AM on Friday, December 23rd, 2011	
			 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 3:24 AM on Friday, January 6th, 2012	
				BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				Fighting2Survive ( member #28410)		posted at 12:01 AM on Tuesday, January 10th, 2012	
				Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces		
	 	 			
				    				bufffalo ( member #21854)		posted at 6:27 AM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012	
			 			
				    				2_4giving4_2long ( member #34008)		posted at 10:24 PM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012	
			 
	oooooooooh. I just asked about boundaries on another forum. This makes so much sense to me now. Thank you. 
 
			 			Me 52
He 49
DDay 11/06/11
Married 23 years
2 adult children.		
	 	 			
				    				numbandnauseous ( member #34525)		posted at 10:40 PM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012	
			 
	thanks - really helpful for us newbies! 
 
			 			BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T:  20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)		
	 	 			
				    				AttemptStrength ( member #27947)		posted at 6:06 AM on Monday, January 23rd, 2012	
				BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS 
I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.		
	 	 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 4:31 PM on Tuesday, January 24th, 2012	
			 
	bump  
 
 
			 			BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 1:53 AM on Wednesday, January 25th, 2012	
				BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				OnAnIsland ( member #34319)		posted at 4:12 PM on Wednesday, January 25th, 2012	
				D-day: Christmas 2011 
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.  Maya Angelou		
	 	 			
				    				unarmbears ( member #7480)		posted at 3:37 PM on Sunday, January 29th, 2012	
				FBS-Me, 67              
FWH-Him, 62
2 Sons 33 and 38
2 Daughters 36 & 31 And 5 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie		
	 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 6:47 PM on Tuesday, February 7th, 2012	
		 			
				    				wonderingbull ( member #14833)		posted at 7:04 PM on Friday, February 10th, 2012	
				The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
		
	 	 			
				    				LisaP ( member #15088)		posted at 1:18 AM on Monday, February 13th, 2012	
				Me BS
Divorced!
~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~    Unknown		
	 	 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 1:04 AM on Thursday, February 16th, 2012	
				BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				nowiknow23 ( member #33226)		posted at 2:32 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2012	
				You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane		
	 	 			
				    				al35118 ( member #33649)		posted at 4:50 PM on Thursday, March 1st, 2012	
				Bh 48
FWW 31
Married Jan 24th 2012
D-Day  June 17 2011
Then TT until Oct 19,2011		
	 	 			
				    				bufffalo ( member #21854)		posted at 5:12 PM on Saturday, March 3rd, 2012	
			 			
				    				DixieDiamondfly ( member #34830)		posted at 9:07 PM on Wednesday, March 7th, 2012	
			 
	Thank you so much for this post. I struggle with setting boundaries, so this really underscores the importance of it. I've just go to figure out what the boundaries should be. 
 
			 			BS: Me, 56 yrs. young
XWS: Him, 60 yo
KIDS: 33 yo son, 31 yo son, 25 yo daughter...and three wonderful grandsons and a beautiful granddaughter.
Married 34 yrs.
D-Day #1: 2/8/12
D-Day #2: 7/16/2012
D-Day #3: 3/29/2015
Divorced!		
	 	 			
				    				SuperDuperWonderboy ( member #34716)		posted at 3:39 AM on Friday, March 9th, 2012	
				My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.