sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:34 PM on Wednesday, October 28th, 2015
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 10:03 AM on Saturday, November 7th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:49 PM on Saturday, December 5th, 2015
Bump. Essential reading for BS & WS.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:30 AM on Wednesday, December 9th, 2015
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 4:35 PM on Friday, December 25th, 2015
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:14 AM on Tuesday, January 19th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:23 PM on Tuesday, January 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:58 AM on Wednesday, February 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 3:27 AM on Friday, February 5th, 2016
i edit frequently because i have to
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 8:47 PM on Wednesday, February 17th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 6:55 PM on Monday, March 21st, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:33 PM on Sunday, April 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
fighter352 ( member #51613) posted at 8:49 PM on Monday, April 4th, 2016
You are amazing! This post is PROFOUND!
So on the market here.
I am setting my boundaries up now at 3 months post D-day. The information you shared reinforces my own newly discovered insights...I realize I am healing!!!!
Tearing up posting this as its sinking in...thank you!
"...Keep Holding your ridge."
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 1:44 PM on Tuesday, April 5th, 2016
Thanks Fighter.
For those of us that have spent our lives co-dependent to our spouses this is essential. Declare your value. Draw boundaries, Hold them. EXPECT more.
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:59 PM on Sunday, April 10th, 2016
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lovingmyselfmore ( member #46119) posted at 12:15 AM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016
dday: september-12-2014
Me: 42 EX: 46 gay or bisexual (go figure!) together: 12 years
Dday to 3 months: suicidal 1 year after: huge depression- 1.5 years still kind of depressed-Took me 2.5 years to be kind of happy again
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 6:57 PM on Tuesday, April 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 3:27 AM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, May 5th, 2016
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 3:04 AM on Thursday, May 12th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
