Fighting2Survive (original poster member #28410) posted at 12:48 AM on Thursday, August 16th, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 12:36 AM on Tuesday, August 28th, 2012
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
scangel3 ( member #36164) posted at 4:38 AM on Tuesday, August 28th, 2012
I really wish I had seen this and the 180 when I first found out about my wh affair, i wouldn't be where I am today. I may actually be happy and not trying to figure out what to do from here
BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 10, DS 7, DS 6.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:51 PM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2012
Bumping for a member. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 3:37 PM on Friday, September 14th, 2012
Bump
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 5:32 PM on Monday, September 17th, 2012
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:33 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
bump
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:14 AM on Monday, October 8th, 2012
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:09 PM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
weekend bump.
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:07 PM on Monday, October 22nd, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 7:00 PM on Friday, November 16th, 2012
atsenaotie ( member #27650) posted at 7:23 PM on Friday, November 16th, 2012
This is the first I have seen this post, and I must say great job Fighting2Survive. I can now see why FWW is STBXW. She scored 25% (1 out of 4) on the Reconcilation table, and only 10% (1 out of 10) on the Remorse list. No wonder I have detached and given up.
LTA FBS
dday 10.5.09
Divorced
follyandsuch ( new member #37512) posted at 8:39 PM on Friday, November 16th, 2012
I am grateful I have found this.
I'm so sick of my ex-fi just wanting to tell me to put it in the past. "I said I'm sorry, what else can I do," and "it's up to you." I realize he'd rather rugsweep than reconcile after reading this.
I'm so glad I found this site.
allhopegone ( member #37465) posted at 4:17 PM on Saturday, November 17th, 2012
Thanks for putting up all the links to great info in one place
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:24 PM on Saturday, December 8th, 2012
Bumping to first page for weekend posters.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:31 PM on Monday, December 10th, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:21 AM on Friday, December 14th, 2012
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, December 19th, 2012
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 5:23 AM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2012
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:34 PM on Monday, December 24th, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
