sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:33 PM on Saturday, December 2nd, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 2:00 AM on Monday, December 11th, 2017
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
worldofpotential ( member #61244) posted at 9:19 AM on Tuesday, December 12th, 2017
Me BW (41) WH (47)
ILYBINILWY August 2017 when he walked out
Wreckonciliation 2 weeks later
D-Day November 2017 (OW 25)
On the road to D since I am nobody's plan B
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:40 PM on Sunday, December 17th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
MsCajunBelle ( new member #60706) posted at 5:06 AM on Monday, December 18th, 2017
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:05 AM on Thursday, December 21st, 2017
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:24 PM on Tuesday, December 26th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
solvay ( new member #61942) posted at 6:10 PM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2017
Very useful post, thanks.
mchercheur (original poster member #37735) posted at 2:59 PM on Monday, January 1st, 2018
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
HartShotAt80 ( member #61909) posted at 9:51 PM on Monday, January 1st, 2018
I can't believe I've missed this post until now. Wonderfully written, thank you dearly for devoting your energy to writing and posting this!
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:16 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
lostinwy ( member #61925) posted at 4:42 AM on Friday, January 19th, 2018
Great post. Needed this today.
ME BS: 53
WH: 59
Kids: 2
DDay #1 08/16/17 (OEA)
Dday #2 09/17 (EA w COW)
Dday #3 10/17 (OEA w/COW)
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 9:16 PM on Monday, April 2nd, 2018
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:14 PM on Wednesday, April 18th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 5:57 PM on Tuesday, May 1st, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:29 PM on Sunday, May 13th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:44 PM on Saturday, May 26th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 6:59 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 5:40 PM on Saturday, July 14th, 2018
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:50 PM on Tuesday, July 24th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
