rtrdad ( member #70901)		posted at 4:26 PM on Sunday, July 7th, 2019	
		 			
				    				 mchercheur (original poster  member #37735)		posted at 5:25 PM on Saturday, August 10th, 2019	
				Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 5:45 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2019	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 5:52 PM on Thursday, January 9th, 2020	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 6:25 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2020	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				heartbroken_kk ( member #22722)		posted at 4:23 PM on Tuesday, July 28th, 2020	
				FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good. 		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 5:23 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 5:47 PM on Friday, February 5th, 2021	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 9:45 PM on Tuesday, May 11th, 2021	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 4:34 PM on Friday, June 18th, 2021	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				EllieKMAS ( member #68900)		posted at 3:07 PM on Friday, August 6th, 2021	
				"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park		
	 	 			
				    				SI Staff ( Moderator #10)		posted at 1:44 PM on Sunday, September 12th, 2021	
		 			
				    				yellowbella26 ( new member #79404)		posted at 2:37 AM on Thursday, September 16th, 2021	
			 
	This is really good and helps me see things in healthy perspective. 
BUMP! 
 
			 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 12:09 AM on Saturday, February 19th, 2022	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 2:45 PM on Tuesday, April 12th, 2022	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 3:57 PM on Monday, June 20th, 2022	
				fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			
				    				theshockofbetrayal ( new member #80441)		posted at 8:48 PM on Thursday, July 21st, 2022	
			 
	I am so grateful this post is visible...it is from so long ago.  Very supportive post to this newly aware BS. 
 
			 		 			
				    				QuitePossible ( member #80726)		posted at 8:21 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022	
			 
	Thank you so much for posting! 
 
			 	 			
				    				QuitePossible ( member #80726)		posted at 3:04 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022	
			 
	Incredible post! A must read.
Thanks for sharing. 
 
			 	 			
				    				QuitePossible ( member #80726)		posted at 8:29 PM on Friday, September 2nd, 2022